.. ive her space and freedom, but he will always be there to save her should she fall.
Barry is ready to let Moira continue this climb solo. The story examines the relationship between parents and their children as they grow up and become independent. Furthermore, it is a story about change of attitudes concerning when it is time for the kids to move on.Saturday Climbing specifically focuses on two characters, the first is the main character Barry, and his daughter Moira. Throughout the story, we are told the relation between Barry and Moira. Early in the story, we notice that Barry is climbing up a cliff. Barry is a father who must learn to deal with his daughter growing up and wanting her independence.
Moira, the teenaged daughter, seeks to escape from her father’s protective grasp and explore the world on her own.She wishes to be able to face her own challenges in her own ways. Moira wants to take on more responsibility and freedom – two wishes her father is wary to give her. Barry feels that Moira is too young, and not ready to handle this new power. Moira, on the other hand, craves these things and believes she is up to the task. In Barry’s eyes, Moira will always be his little girl that he’s under no circumstance willing to part with.
It is this image that Moira is trying to change, and replace with her own personal view of being an adult. However, as is the case with most other parents, Barry is reluctant to let his baby grow up too quickly.To him, it was just “last year” Moira lost her first tooth, and started kindergarten just “six months” ago.
Barry has trouble dealing with the fact that his daughter is all grown up and looking to leave the “nest”. What fears Barry the most is the diminishing need for him to help his daughter. Barry feels that he’s losing his daughter because she no longer needs in him in certain aspects anymore. For example, rides to activities make her dinner, etc.He wants to hang on to his daughter for just a little bit longer to prolong her childhood. Barry does not want to be left behind.
This fear of being left behind and forgotten is amplified by the fact that Barry is single. When Moira goes off to college, Barry all by himself. It is because of this outcome that Barry realises how much he depends on Moira for companionship.Barry, despite being a working single- parent, makes a lot of time for his daughter.
With the absence of Moira’s mother, Barry tries to compensate as best as he can to fill the void. He puts a lot of effort in finding an activity they can both share an interest in. Through rock-climbing together, they have made great strides in strengthening their relationship. They are forced to rely and trust one another. It also gives Moira that responsibility and freedom she wants. The use of a controlling metaphor of the climb representing the development in the relationship between Barry and Moira provides and insightful look at their progression.As they climb the cliff, one can see the transition in parenting Moira.
At the beginning of the story, we find Barry “sixty feet up the cliff”, with Moira safely down on the ground. This ideal situation if Barry’s mind. Later we see Moira begin her climb and she chooses to take some routes not taken by her father. She is proclaiming her independence, and proves to Barry that she can make it on her own.
When she reaches him, they’re now levelled with each other. Both equal, both adults. This is the first time, Barry realises that his daughter is grown up and no longer his little girl. At the end of the story we watch as Barry cautiously lets Moira go off to blaze her own trail. Barry remains ready to save his baby should she fall.Barry accepts Moira’s independence and realises he can’t continue on holding her back. Another important aspect of the story is the use of flashbacks with the “frizzy hair girl”.
This character seems strange at first, but it is not until her significance to the events in the story does it become clear how important she is. Her two quotes lead Barry to change his attitude towards his approach to raising Moira. “The caged bird proves nothing but the power of the captor”, and “The world seeks balance; extremism begets extremism”, help Barry realise what he must do.By caging the bird, and denying it its freedom, it only feeds its hunger for it. When the bird is finally let out, it will try to get as far away as possible.
The girl with frizzy hair was this bird. She had an over-protective father, and she decided to go across the country to get away from his control. This helped Barry understand that the more he tries to keep Moira in the “nest”, the more resentment there will be.
The other quote says that extreme actions have extreme reactions. The more Barry tries to control Moira, the more likely she is to rebel.If Barry continue on controlling Moira’s life, he would fall like Ron. He would fail to be a father and end up like the frizzy hair girl’s father.
The best thing Barry can do is to minimise his “protection”. The “frizzy hair girl” represented what could happen to Moira, this triggered a turnaround in Barry’s ways. In a sense, the “frizzy hair girl” acted as a catalyst. The last bit of the story is demonstrative of the fact that Barry has a different role as a parent from now on.Barry is now there to provide a safety net should Moira fall.
He will be there ready to catch her. Other than when his help is asked for, Barry is now and observer watching whether or not he did a well enough job in raising his daughter. Moira begins setting off climbing a new section of the cliff, and this time she will lead.
She starts out boldly up the unknown cliff, ready to tackle the next section of it.As she climbs, she begins her journey through adulthood, and perhaps one day she will be leading her own child on this rock. At this point, Barry no longer sets the protection for Moira. She is expected to do that for herself. As a loving father, he dreads the day that it seems he is no longer needed. By the end of the story, Barry reaches the realisation all parents must come to in time.He realises that it is time for him to let his daughter go. He will remain there next to her supporting, but his job is limited.
When there is a need he is ready to step in and resume his role as a caregiver. Until that time comes, he will give Moira “all the slack she needs while, at the same time, keeping his hands tensed, ready to lock shut, ready to absorb the shock of any fall.” In conclusion, I think this story refers to most family. Children will always grow up and leave their parents some time in life.
Parents should support them and be happy instead of holding them back. For example, my brother just came back from Japan. When he left Calgary, my parents were pretty worried about him having trouble being independent, but my parents supported by brother all the way.
But if my parents have held my brother back, he might have lost a chance to work in Japan. Indeed, a parent caring for child is important, but how much they are caring is even more important.Too much might not give them a chance to mature, but too little might ruin their life. So parents have great responsibility in looking after their child, so much responsibility that it might give them stress which might effect their life.