Premarital Sex Premarital Sex and Religion The Catholic Church teaches that premarital sex is wrong, yet it is still widely practiced around the world. The reason marriage was created was to join two people of the opposite sex together in a holy sacrament that would make the couple one. God’s reason for marriage is quoted in the bible when he said, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh” . The Sacrament of marriage is one of the most sacred Sacraments in the Catholic Religion. By performing premarital sex, the couple is breaking a covenant with God and is performing a sin.
Marriage is the joining of a couple in the eyes of God and in the eyes of the State. When two people are joined into marriage they become on in flesh and one spirit. Sexual intercourse within marriage is for this reason good and of great blessing both to the couple, to the family and to the church. However, outside of marriage it creates a conflict of body and soul. This conflict may not at first be evident but later it can result it real soul damage occurring between the two people involved. God tells us that we should control out bodies and our lusting, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in a passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God”1. By performing premarital sex we are abusing our bodies and our souls.
The pain that premarital sex puts on us is very evident. Physically premarital sex can lead to many things, such as pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and other things that accompany premarital sex. Mentally premarital sex also hurts. Our bond with God is ruined, we lose contact with God and we are no longer part of the Church. Premarital sex goes against God’s law so our relationship with God is destroyed.
Penance can heal our relationship with God, but the emotional ties that go along with premarital sex can hurt a person for life. Many couples that have premarital sex often do not stay together in marriage. Many people have strong emotional hardships that they go through after having premarital sex. Premarital sex doesn’t just lead to sin; it leads to a separation of God and your family and friends. Sex is the sacred sigh of the covenant with God, when a couple has sex they are sealing the covenant with God.
Breaking this sign of the covenant is one of the most harmful sins that we as a people can expose ourselves to. In order for us to enter into heaven God says But among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity..because these are improper for God’s holy people.1 Breaking the sign of the covenant with God is breaking God’s law and going against everything God wants for us. God doesn’t ask much from us considering all that he has given us, he asks us only to follow his laws, in Jesus said, If you love me, you will obey what I command.1 Premarital sex goes against God’s command and ruins our relationship with him. Since the time of Christ, Christians have thought premarital sex to be a sin. Ancient Christians use to believe that “marriage was a second rate choice but if one lacked self control, he had to take such a choice”2 The ancient Christians were saying that if someone couldn’t control themselves sexually without abstaining from sex until marriage then they were forced into marriage.
Marriage was not looked upon as a good thing; so many Christians abstained from premarital sex in order not to marry. Early Christians also thought, “sex was something unclean, something vile, to be avoided.”2 This notion helped early Christians to abstain from premarital sex. The Churchmen of this time were very against premarital sex. The thought “an early marriage were often looked upon as a sign of an evil, uncontrollable temperance”2 So premarital sex was looked at as evil, a pregnancy resulting from premarital sex forced couples to enter into marriage. As Christianity developed to present times, many beliefs have stayed the same. Today Christians still believe that premarital sex is a sin, but many who are not devout Christians are having premarital sex.
People who do not have a religion and are atheist often feel that there is nothing wrong with premarital sex, since it is not a commandment for them they feel that there is no sin that accompanies premarital sex. Premarital sex is becoming more accepted in our society. Many schools hand out condoms to students to keep them protected from the diseases that accompany premarital sex. Many counseling centers have been set up to help unmarried mothers. Although many people still think that premarital sex is a sin, it is more widely accepted as being ok.
Teens everywhere are educated on sex, in schools across the country. “Religiosity among young American women declined between 1971 and 1976.”3 Showing that due to a decrease in religion, premarital sex statistics have been on the rise. However, children who are raised from good families are often the ones who abstain from premarital sex. “The decline of religiosity, while evident at either the low or high end of the family stability scale was least among young women from “ideal” families.”3 Families who are considered ideal often have children who are more involved in their religion. Many families that are not structured correctly have problems with their children having premarital sex. Premarital sex often leads to many family problems that the Catholic Church must get involved in.
The Church often helps the families that are created from premarital sex. “Early childbearing is disadvantageous to the teenager, parents, and involves high social and economic costs for individuals in society.”4 Many families have to put up unwanted children for adoption because of money issues. Those who do not put their children up for adoption often have a separation between the mother and father of the child. The government supports children that are born from premarital sex with programs such as WICK and Welfare. These government agencies provide basic needs for the children until a certain age when nutrients and vitamins are not as important.
With programs such as these in effects, young teens feel that it is more acceptable to have premarital sex because they know that the government will support the child. Many Catholics fear premarital sex due to the consequences that it brings. Since premarital sex is looked down upon by the Church as a sin, many Catholics fear going to hell for this sin. It is said, “If Christ was soon to return to the earth, and all men should spend their time contemplating God and cleansing their souls rather than enjoying sexual pleasures”2 Christians feel that if Christ was coming that people should repent for their sins and prepare for Christ’s coming. Since we know that Christ is coming we should abstains from sex and live the life a good Christian.
Penance does take away our sins, but if we do not know when Jesus is coming we must stay free from sin in order to get into heaven. People should not abstain from premarital sex due to fear though, they abstain because they love God and they love themselves, they should honor their bodies and the law of God and abstain from premarital sex for good reasons. The reason that premarital sex is a sin is because it disobeys God’s commandment. God wanted to make a covenant between a man and women that would be more powerful then any other covenant. This covenant would be known as marriage, the sacred bonding of two people into one.
Each covenant that God made is very sacred and they all have signs in order to show the sacrament. The sign of the sacrament of marriage is sexual intercourse. This means that if a couple that is unmarried has sex, they are taking place in a sacred sacrament called marriage. Even though they are not seen as a married couple in the eyes of the Law they are seen as married by the Church. Having sex completes the covenant; the couple is married and is part of the covenant with God after performing sexual intercourse with the partner. When a couple performs sexual intercourse, they have entered into a covenant with God that they can never break. So if you have premarital sex and then marry another person and have sex with them, you are cheating on your first lover, who you are still in a covenant with.
Premarital sex is a serious moral issue confronting college students. Sexual temptations do exist in high school, but once in college, students are more cut off from familial restrictions and parish supports. They are confronted with peer pressure such as everyone is doing it, and are exposed to some teachers who are not religious. Let’s face it, college life neither understands nor supports the value of chastity. Some student’s fall into promiscuous behavior without even reali …