Genderrelationships In Love Jones Using the movie Love Jones I will talk about the characteristics of male/male and female/female relationship as they are portrayed in the film. Then I will talk about how different the female/male relationship is and focus primarily on their communication styles. There is some harsh vocabulary included in my essay but only in quotations that I have taken from the movie itself to communicate what was going on in the scenes I have chose to talk about. Female/female relationship Josie and Nina Nina is one of the main characters in this movie and Josie is her best friend. A scene where their friendship is characterized is one where Josie and Nina are riding in a cab. Josie gets upset with Nina (briefly) when she finds out that Nina has had sex with Darius (the other main character) on the first night they went out.
The haste in which they have had sex does not bother her as much as the fact that Nina does not tell her. This example is a direct correlation to one of the themes of womens friendship that intimacy is cultivated through dialogue. This suggest that women build closeness in their friendships dialogue and by Nina not telling, it breaks the code of intimacy in a way.
The establishment of a new relationship something like this that is an important part of Ninas life, and excluding Josie from that is what is troubling her. Even though I do not believe that to be true in this example, that can be argued as a reason Nina doesnt share.So, once Josie gets over the initial shock of the news, she wants Nina to tell all the details how big, how long, everything! The two women then begin to discuss the sexual relationship as only women can do. Nina says, It was like his *censored* just talked to me! Josie replies with a sigh, Whatd it say? Only true friends can talk like that ! There was another theme of womens friendships in this example that women serve a therapeutic function for each other.
Josie apparently has had some bad relationships in her life so she seems to live through the experiences that Nina has. Im not sure how healthy that is in real life, but it seems to be comforting to Josie in this movie. Even the closest women friends do not talk about everything.Nina has just gotten out of a long and unproductive relationship with another man and the thought of jumping right back into that is too much for her. So when she says that This is no love thang; me and Darius are just kickin it. I think she means it. She does not want to contradict something she said earlier in the movie to Josie. She said she isnt going to make the same mistake twice.
And that mistake is falling in love because as Nina says, it is as played out as the A-track. In another scene the two women are at the Sanctuary, which is the club where Nina met Darius. They come to the club straight from the train station because Nina wants to see if Darius is there. Darius and Nina have gone through a separation period so she is anxious to see him but doesnt want to call him this soon so she just hopes to run into him. He isnt there and Nina is really tired and wants to go home.
She never comes out and says that is her motivation but her girl knows her and she knows her motivation. Josie just validates Nina wanting to leave by saying Yeah, and there is NOT ONE cutie, in the house anyway! It doesnt seem like Josie really wants to leave but she will because her friend is ready to go. Then when they are leaving the club, Hollywood runs outside and stops them. He offers them a ride in his car (which happens to be a hearse) and the two friends can not help looking and each other in agreement and burst out in laughter. They are laughing even harder as they walk away and do not pay him any attention. One theme of womens friendships is that it is talk centered.
I would agree that a great deal of the relationship between Nina and Josie is dialogue but this instance is a perfect example of how the closeness can exist to a point where it is not even necessary to speak a word. They have a shared understanding of this situation, which makes it easy to laugh and carry on with what they were doing. The intimacy in womens friendships also is such that a close friend can help things come out of you that would never come out otherwise. Nina dated Darius in this movie but during the time they broke up, her friend encouraged her to hang out with one of Darius friends Hollywood. Hollywood does in fact try to take Nina out on date, but I dont think that she would have gone if she did not get the idea and confirmation that it was acceptable from her friend. Male/male relationship Savon and Darius In Chris Inmans Article, Friendships Among Men the authors makes some interesting comments about characteristics of Male friendships.Some of these apply to the characters Darius in Savon in this movie.
The key feature of this article is the assumption that unlike female friends men are more likely to engage in activities rather than in conversations about the relationship.(Inman, 106) By this he means that in order for men to know that they are good friends they do stuff together, they do not have conversations about the fact they are friends. Darius and Savon play pool in one scene of this movie. While them playing pool does in fact confirm part of Inmans theory, it also does not account for the four other times you see these friends talking and not doing any activity. When they are at the pool hall Darius has just had sex with Nina for the first time and while they are playing he asks Savon, Do you believe you are with your soul mate? This may be a sore subject for Savon because at this point in the movie Savon and his wife Troy are separated.They do not ever talk about why she left, you just see her leaving and taking their son with her.
They dont talk about it much but then Savon questions Darius if any of this talk about soul mates has to do with his new female friend. Darius tells Savon about his sexual experience with Nina. He says that she put it on him alluding to some sort of spell she must have put on him because he was mesmerized. It must have been a spell because in the morning he was making cheese omelettes for her.Savon jokingly tells Darius Boy you better put your name on that because its better than Michael Jordans come back. Darius is a little defensive about that and replies This aint no love thang we just kickin it. This is all interesting because it defines the limits to which they can be mutually exclusive. When it comes to being vulnerable sexually Darius has no problems letting Savon know that Nina put it on him.
But as far as her being his soul mate and describing for Savon the emotional connection he feels for this girl, which is out of the picture at this point. Although male friends seldom explicitly discuss their …