.. unishment was not something I chose to use as part of parenting techniques. Instead I chose to use discipline (on most good parenting days!) Discipline means to teach. It should be a positive way of helping and guiding children to achieve self-control, self-esteem and confidence. Children need discipline for many reasons some of that are protection, to get along with others, and to understand limits.
Discipline helps children understand the logical consequences of their actions and learn common rules that everyone must live by. It can help teach a child values that are held by the family and community. “The purpose of discipline, then, is to teach children acceptable behavior so that they will make wise decisions when dealing with problems.” Emotional Intelligence Interpersonal intelligence is the ability to understand other people: what motivates them, how they work, how to work cooperatively with them. Successful salespeople, politicians, teachers, clinicians, and religious leaders are all likely to be individuals with high degrees of interpersonal intelligence. Intrapersonal intelligence is a correlative ability, turned inward.
It is a capacity to form an accurate, veridical model of oneself and to be able to use that model to operate effectively in life. Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to an ability to recognize the meanings of emotions, and to reason and problem solve on the basis of them. EI involves the capacity to perceive emotions, assimilate emotion-related feelings, understand the information of those emotions, and manage them. EI can be assessed most directly by asking a person to solve emotional problems, such as identifying the emotion in a story or a painting. EI is a type of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use the information to guide one’s thinking and actions (Mayer & Salovey, 1993). According to Salovey & Mayer (1990) EI involves abilities that may be categorized into five domains: Self-awareness: Observing yourself and recognizing a feeling as it happens. Managing emotions: Handling feelings so that they are appropriate; realizing what is behind a feeling; finding ways to handle fears and anxieties, anger, and sadness. Motivating oneself: Channeling emotions in the service of a goal; emotional self control; delaying gratification and stifling impulses.
Empathy: Sensitivity to others’ feelings and concerns and taking their perspective; appreciating the differences in how people feel about things. Handling relationships: Managing emotions in others; social competence and social skills. Emotional intelligence does not mean giving free rein to feelings; rather it means managing feelings so that they are expressed appropriately and effectively, enabling people to work smoothly toward their common goals. It is my belief that compared to IQ and expertise, emotional intelligence matters twice as much to achieve excellence in different professions and it is particularly central to leadership qualities. Measuring emotions is completed through measuring all three components. A researcher may measure ones heart rate after that person has been told no to something the have request.
They may conduct studies to see the different facial expressions on children when participating in the same activity. Research of the experiential component could be concluded by self-report. A researcher may ask a child how they feel after certain incidents. Measures that utilize all three components, expressive, physiological and experiential can be found in some emotional testing instruments but not all. Below is a list of some of the most popular instruments for assessing emotions: Multiple Affect Adjective Checklist-Revised – Zuckerman, Marvin and Lubin, Bernard Scale for Shallow Affect – Jackson, Douglas N. and Payne, I. Reed Positive – Negative Affect Scale – Bradburn, N. M.
Emotions Profile Index – based on Plutchnik’s theory of emotions. There are over one hundred instruments that assess depression. Several examples are listed below. Beck Depression Inventory Beck Scale for Suicide Ideation Beck Hopelessness Scale Hamilton Depression Scale There are over 200 anxiety instruments, many focusing on specific types of anxieties. Beck Anxiety Inventory Taylor Manifest Anxiety Scale The Anxiety Symptom Scale Hamilton Anxiety Scale Penn State Worry Questionnaire (PSWQ) Assessing affect has not fared as well in the assessment field as cognition and cognitive processing. With the exception of depression and anxiety, there are few instruments for the assessment of affective functioning in general.
Although there is controversy regarding a widely accepted `scorecard` to measure children’s emotional intelligence, psychologists say a parent should look for clues. Here are some signs a child may have a low emotional IQ: Child is often angry. Child behaves frustrated easily. Child withdraws into himself and isolates himself from others. Child becomes violent; kicks, hits or bites.
Conclusion Emotional intelligence starts with knowing oneself; not just skills and vocational aptitudes, but what emotional baggage a person brings to any given situation. A person may know that X plus Y equals Z but if that person does not present himself or herself in a positive way, they risk not getting what they want. For example, my husband is very smart and can answer almost any type of question. But if he is put him in a room at a social event where he must “win people over” and he will not be very good. On the other hand, I believe that I have very good emotional skills.
I think that is one reason I am a good leader. I have the ability to see the bigger picture and react to each situation by reading the other persons emotional signals. Yet in relation to IQ, I would say I am of the average intelligence. If asked about accounting, history or other factual related questions, I would most likely draw a blank. My sense of self-awareness can be attributed to my involvement with a 12-step program where I am asked to complete inventories and always look internally for answers and responsibility.
People that are emotionally intelligent tend to react positively to a potentially troublesome situation, such as our companys possible merger. I may not like what is happening, but at least I will not be overwhelmed by the situation and will take measures to make the best of it. Those that appear to be emotionally unstable are reacting in anger and frustration without any discussion of their feelings. Because of their unacceptable emotional behavior, they risk promotions and their job. Emotions are complex responses to internal or external events. Being aware of the effects of emotions on self and on others will help a person to deal with everyday life situations Bibliography Armsden, G.
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